Get Shit Done

Today I declare as GSD day. Get Shit Done. No just talking about it and contemplating your To Do lists, it's time to take action. It's about doing the hardest task straight up & maximising these hours to truly show how productive you can be. Stop wasting time watering the garden, patting the dog (ok a few pats), searching the internet and get shit done in your business. (See no makeup pic for time management reference). Turn off phone, Facebook & email for an allocated time today & get focused on that important task. Who's joining me on GSD day today?

You are Good Enough

Do you dream of the day that you will have everything under control?

Are you frustrated that the more you strive for perfection the less perfect you believe you are?

I'm sure if juggling & multi tasking was a career in itself, us women would win a Nobel prize.

The thing is that you are striving for the ultimate perfection but what is perfect?

Perfect is the unreachable, pie in the sky that you believe other people may have achieved.

The hot shot business woman that you meet at the networking event that seems to have it all together.

You see, when you measure yourself against the best of the outside of someone else to the worst of the inside of yourself, you will never ever EVER win at that game.

Sometimes I know you get damn tired of it. Frustrated that you work so hard at being the perfect partner, Mum, house cleaner, cook and oh yeah, all balanced with running your own business. Then when you fall into bed exhausted, dreaming of that next travel destination or that massage at your favourite day spa, you remind yourself of all the things that were not done good enough today and how you will have to do better tomorrow. 

You will do that washing in the wash basket, you will be nicer to your partner, you will exercise, you will cook a nice dinner, you will eat healthy, you will volunteer at the school, you will get that project for your business finished, you will mop the kitchen floor and for heavens sake make sure you shave those hairy legs of yours :) 

It is rewarding and important to achieve in your life but when you put so much pressure on yourself to perform at a level that is absurd at times, it can leave you angry, frustrated and wanting to just hibernate under your doona and dream of an easier life. 

I want you to know this. You are Good enough. Yes, I know logically you know that and this frustrates you too. Knowing that hey I'm smart, I'm a good mum, I do a good job and then that other little mini me voice pops up and says otherwise.

It's time to invest in YOU. You are so busy taking care of everything & everyone else, what about you? You can't give your all if you have not nurtured yourself. It's your turn.

Immerse yourself in learning how to communicate with yourself in a way that empowers you. You have strategies for all the chores in your life now learn the strategies of being your own best friend. Schedule in time to work on the project of YOU. Surround yourself with those that believe in you, that are on your side and cheering you onto success. 

The journey all starts with one belief, "I AM GOOD ENOUGH."

Be kind to yourself.

 

JJ xx

 

5 Languages of Love

Relationships can be challenging & it takes teamwork, understanding and behavioural flexibility to develop a strong, sustainable, loving bond. In life, we can often come from a space of, "What's in it for me" type thinking that can prevent us from stepping into our partners world.
As individuals, we all have our own values, beliefs & life experiences that will differ from others & combined with our need to be right (our Ego), this can cause conflict and a perception of not understanding or appreciating your partner. We also may differ with how we experience & show our love to others.

The 5 love languages explored in Gary Chapman's book, helps us understand how to express & appreciate your partners love languages.

The 5 love languages are:
1. Words of Affirmation
2. Acts of Service
3. Receiving gifts
4. Quality time
5. Physical touch

Do you know yours & your partners love language and if so, what are you currently doing to fulfill these needs & fill up each-others love bucket?

My hubby Rocky (Yes that is his real name) & I have been together for nearly 27 years. We both share the love language of physical touch and have at least one hug a day however we differ with our top 2 languages. Mine is gifts & Rocky's is words of affirmation.

We put high importance & effort on focusing on meeting these needs even though they are not our own individual drivers in experiencing or expressing love.
So when Rocky mows the lawn, I ensure I check it out & give him positive feedback and leave notes in his lunch box from time to time with words of appreciation.
On Sunday, Rocky picked me a rose from the garden and said this is my special gift from him and this morning, I opened up my diary to see a love note in there. (Ok, stop laughing at the Boombie nickname).

My message to you is to focus on filling up each others love bucket in your relationship as often as you can. It's not just for the courting stages, make it a lifetime commitment to each other and I promise you that you will reap the rewards.

Who are you comparing yourself to?

When you compare, you often despair. As you are unique, there cannot be a balanced comparison between you and others. You may often compare the best of others as you see them from their outside persona, to the worst part of the inside of yourself. If this is your strategy, you will never win at that game. Unless this is serving you in your life, Stop it.

Focus on tapping into your own resources, practice communicating to yourself in an empowering way and be your own best coach. The best time to start doing this is Right Now.